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    5 things you should NOT worry about postpartum

    For the first few days of motherhood, I walked around in a pleasant postpartum haze. I was deliriously happy. I loved everyone¬†— even the OB who stitched up my vajay-jay. When the hormones and adrenaline wore off, though, I realized I was in the middle of a shit storm (with both literal and figurative shit). Why does this thing keep peeing on me? Is four layers of clothing too much for a winter walk? And why has no one brought me sushi yet? While these are all important and relevant worries, there are definitely lots of other things you should NOT be concerned about. There’s a lot of pressure on…

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    Why I gave up on breastfeeding

    Before I became a mom, I always assumed I’d be breastfeeding my future child. Sure, it’s hard for some people, I thought.¬†But that won’t be me. Breast is best — I’ll make it work! How incredibly naive of me. When my son arrived almost six weeks early, the lactation consultant in the hospital encouraged me to try to nurse him, but explained that many premature babies have difficulty latching at first. And he did. But I was determined to give my baby the best. I spent hours feeding him with very little success, sleeping only about 45 minutes between nighttime feeds. I did this until I was chastised by one…

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    4 tips for loving your postpartum body

    I love Pinterest. I use it pretty much every day for everything from recipes to travel inspiration. But despite my Pinterest addiction, it has always bothered me that it’s become one more tool to reinforce unattainable standards for women. One of the things that pissed me off the most during my pregnancy were all the pins that popped up about having a “belly-only pregnancy” and “shedding the baby weight FAST”. It can be hard enough to cope with the changes in our body postpartum without being bombarded with media pressure to “get our body back”. If you’re gung-ho to lose the baby weight, good for you — no judgment here.…

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    4 books that changed my perspective on pregnancy and birthing

    Unlike many women, my reaction when I read “Pregnant, 2-3 weeks” on that pee stick was mixed. Although I’d always known deep down I wanted to be a mom, the timing and circumstances were less than ideal. I was single, had no fixed address, and had planned on spending the next year of my life travelling Latin America. But, as I keep learning (over and over again…), plans are subject to change. So there I was, standing by myself in my parents’ bathroom, feeling a million emotions I’d never felt before, and tears of joy, guilt, and awe spilling from my eyes. When the shock wore off, I knew I…

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    Pumpin’ ain’t easy

    It was a Thursday afternoon when I felt my water break. My due date was still 7 weeks away. And the cherry on top: a room full of wide-eyed 9-year-olds witnessed it. Soon after, I found myself in the labour and delivery wing of the hospital. My midwives were discharging me from their care as an OB I’d never met put her hands in my hoo-ha and told me I was going to have a premature baby. Cue the waterworks. Over the next week and a half of bedrest, I mentally prepared myself for a long stay in the NICU. But nothing could have prepared me for the challenges of…